If you’re struggling with an addiction to alcohol or drugs – there are basically a couple of ways you can try and overcome your addiction. You can either try and beat it yourself – or can you look to get professional treatment and help.

I definitely don’t think you should be trying to overcome your addiction by yourself. It’s just so much harder and the cost of getting it wrong, just too high, because your life (or that of a loved one) is literally at stake.

I reckon the reason many of us alcoholics and drug addicts will look to overcome an addiction by ourselves is twofold. We feel a certain shame or embarrassment to admitting to an addiction, especially because it has a certain stigma attached to it, and so would rather just keep our problem to ourselves due to the fear of it ‘getting out.’

Don’t believe that for a second though. There is no shame in admitting to an addiction to alcohol or drugs. Tens of millions of people struggle with addiction. It is now medically regarded as a disease after all. Any more importantly – by taking ownership of your problem, you’ve taken the most important step to coming clean. Because without doing that, you’d just be living in denial – and then you’d have no chance.

The second big reasons I think many alcoholics and drug addicts don’t look to get professional help and treatment – is the belief that it is simply not realistic from a cost perspective. But that’s simply not the case because there are treatment centers that cater for addicts from just about any financial background.

Imagine if you had cancer. You wouldn’t be looking to fight that yourself, surely? I know there are people that have (and successfully so) – but if you can get professional help that is ready and willing to help you – why not make use of it?

So I would always recommend that you try and get yourself into an addiction treatment center. You may have to do some research and make some enquiries as to one’s that you can afford that are in your area – but I urge you to go for it. It was the best thing I ever did in fighting my own addictions.

By going into treatment you suddenly realise that there are others going through pretty much the same things you are – and that you’re not alone. The loneliness and sense of isolation you feel disappear. Yes, treatment may only be the beginning of your journey towards recovery, but it certainly does give you the best possible chance of starting a new life for yourself.

Look – the first thing that you need to understand, is that recovery from drug addiction and alcoholism, is something totally separate from treating these addictions.

The treatment of addiction is in most cases about the period of roughly a month – where you’ll be at rehab or addiction treatment facility detoxing and receiving various form of treatment – to help you deal with the various factors that have resulted in you going down the road of addiction.

Recovery then – is what follows going to rehab and receiving treatment. It’s pretty much then about what you do for the rest of your life to maintain your sobriety by staying off the drugs or alcohol. I think many that go into treatment don’t get this at first and that’s why relapse rates can be high – because they see treatment as the end of the road for them, when in fact it’s really only the beginning.

Recovery from alcoholism and addiction then, is in essence, about the consistent habits and new way of life you create for yourself – so that you stay on the road of recovery road and don’t end up relapsing.

It’s the 12-Step or other spiritual program you follow, the new (non-addict) friends you now spend your time with, it’s the continuous taking ownership of your emotions and feelings so you don’t get into a state where you want to have that drink or pick up that drug, phoning that friend for support when you’re feeling low and more vulnerable

So in other words – recovery is all about taking continuous action and forming new life affirming habits that will leave the destructive addict part of you a thing of history – and bring to the fore your warrior, spirited self that will flourish despite what life may throw at you.

So the treatment of any addiction should be seen as the stepping stone and preparation for a life of recovery. It’s the beginning – rather than the end of the road. Now I know there are people that leave a life of addiction behind them without going the treatment/rehab route – but they’ve also done it by making significant changes in most areas of their lives and working at it consistently.

So when trying to understand alcohol addiction recovery and drug addiction recovery – remember its something you do and work at for the rest of your life. It can be hard at the beginning, but with time does become much easier – and soon your life will be unrecognisable from the nightmare it was.

Look – the first thing that you need to understand, is that recovery from drug addiction and alcoholism, is something totally separate from treating these addictions.

Treating addiction is typically the three-four-five-or six week period you spend at a rehab/treatment center – detoxing, receiving ongoing care and treatment using various methods like counselling, and helping you deal with the issues that led you to a life of addiction.

Recovery is what you do once you leave rehab – i.e. what you do the rest of your life in trying to stay clean and sober. And this is where I think a lot of addicts go wrong and why relapse rates are so high – because they see treatment as the end point, where in fact is really is only the beginning of the road for you.

Recovery from alcoholism and addiction then, is in essence, about the consistent habits and new way of life you create for yourself – so that you stay on the road of recovery road and don’t end up relapsing.

It’s the NA/AA/12-Step or spiritual program you consistently practice, dealing with your emotions and feelings so you don’t use them as an excuse for drinking or using again, making sure you hang with the right kind of people (not your old using buddies), having someone you can call when you’re feeling low …

So in other words – recovery is all about taking continuous action and forming new life affirming habits that will leave the destructive addict part of you a thing of history – and bring to the fore your warrior, spirited self that will flourish despite what life may throw at you.

That’s why treatment should be seen as preparation and a stepping stone towards recovery – not the end itself. Now I know not everyone gets professional treatment or goes to rehab in overcoming their addictions – but those that succeed whether it be consciously or not – make fundamental changes to their lives and work at it on a continuous basis.

Remember alcoholism recovery and recovery from drug addiction is a process that that you need to work at and follow for the rest of your life. Sure, it can be tough at the start, but I promise it does get so much easier and soon enough you won’t even recognise the person you used to be.

Lots more Alcohol and Drug Addiction Recovery tips can be found at Carl-Peter’s website about Addiction to Drugs and Alcohol, where you can also claim his FREE Book on How to Overcome Alcoholism and Drug Addiction

Teen abstinence? Just ‘saying no’ doesn’t work. Education does!

There are some surely well meaning people, who think that teen abstinence is a concept that this raging hormone group will adopt, just because it’s what they’re told to do. If they won’t clean their room, what makes you think they’re going to accept the teen abstinence directive? It’s like asking a bird not to fly, a dog not to bark or the wind to cease. If you think this will work, then you are the one with your head in the sand. Ostriches don’t fly, BTW. So, what works?

Educating teens is the answer. Remember, this is the age group that disputes the necessity of almost everything that’s good for them! However, this doesn’t mean that a few salient facts won’t get through. Guilt may be induced through moral avenues of argument, but there are some hard-hitting facts and reasons that will give them pause, when nothing else does.

Moral and religious arguments may carry some weight while you’re talking, but in the heat of the moment, kids are not thinking of that chat. This is where the concept of teen abstinence is about the furthest idea from their mind. It’s not that kids don’t want to go along with the idea, they simply don’t have the discipline, experience or inclination.

A more practical approach yields a better measure of success. For example, some parents are reluctant to talk to their teens about sexual matters. They don’t know how to bring up the subject naturally. There are websites which give parents ideas on how to talk to kids about sex. Take a look at some of these and find an approach which is comfortable for you and your child.

A fact-finding perspective can be most valuable. You may cringe at the thought of talking about STDs, AIDS and teenage pregnancy. This is an outdated attitude. However unfortunate, kids know all about the sexual mores actually in practice, from their classmates. Teen culture doesn’t have a lot of adherents to teen abstinence. This is the blind leading the blind.

Today, there are a number of sexually transmitted diseases which can cause problems for a lifetime. According to current statistics, fully 20% of our population is afflicted with herpes! While medication is available to help manage this disease, there are significant risks associated with taking the medication, with no guarantee of not infecting their partner. AIDS is incurable and can be transmitted through a single sexual encounter. As for pregnancy, a teen is simply not emotionally equipped to be a parent – not yet. If you talk to your teenager on a purely practical level, it won’t be hard to convince them that life will change radically and for their lifetime.

You may be shocked to know that most teens can relate to the responsibilities and constraints parenthood presents. More than likely, they know someone who is a teenage parent and are well aware of how that friend’s life is changed by an imprudent moment and lack of discipline.

Promoting teen abstinence requires that you, the parent, get a reality check. Do a little research and lay it all out for them to digest. Kids do have common sense. It’s up to you to structure the facts so that it’s irrefutable, morals and religion notwithstanding. Now the issue of teen abstinence still inserts the moral or religious element, with an indisputable host of real-life reasons that stick.